No dancing allowed

This song from the Wicked soundtrack really struck a chord with me (pun intended). Too many parents these days are content to help there children glide along the surface of life, never digging deep to experience the joys–and the pain–that life offers.

Dancing through life
skimming the surface
gliding where turf is smooth
life’s more painless
for the brainless
why think too hard?
when it’s so soothing
dancing through life
no need to tough it
when you can slough it off as i do
nothing matters
but knowing nothing matters
it’s just life
so keep dancing through…

dancing through life
swaying and sweeping
and always keeping cool
life is fraughtless
when you’re thoughtless
those who don’t try
never look foolish
dancing through life
mindless and careless
make sure your where less
trouble is rife
woes are fleeting
blows are glancing
when you’re dancing
through life…

gangnam-style-sign-278x370I am concerned we are raising a generation who is unaccustomed to hardship and adversity. Cancelling honors awards, giving “participation trophies” and incessant access to social media contribute to a culture of shallow individuals with no real grasp of difficulty.

Unfortunately if you prevent hurt feelings then you also prevent the satisfaction of excellence. I think most of these decisions are made to make the adults feel better. Kids are more resilient than we would like to admit. So if we cut out all rewards of excellence why try? What child wants to get straight A’s, for example, only to have their honor roll removed, communicating to them that excellence is punished and mediocrity is desired? Catering to the dancing crowd will leave our country with a full dance card but no one to walk us home.

When will we decide that pain and hardship are actually tools that build godly character, and that we can embrace and celebrate failure. We can look to God’s word for countless examples of this lifestyle in action.

God, please help me to care more about my child’s character than their comfort. Help me to raise gardeners and not dancers. Help me to teach them to embrace hard times and all the good that can come of it.

1 My son, if you accept my words and store up my commands within you, 2 turning your ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding, 3 and if you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, 4 and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure, 5 then you will understand the fear of the LORD and find the knowledge of God. 6 For the LORD gives wisdom, and from his mouth come knowledge and understanding. 7 He holds victory in store for the upright, he is a shield to those whose walk is blameless, 8 for he guards the course of the just and protects the way of his faithful ones. 9 Then you will understand what is right and just and fair–every good path. 10 For wisdom will enter your heart, and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul. Proverbs 2:1-10


I have a secret…

Okay so I’m really laying myself bare here. I’m going to say out loud what I  have been keeping under wraps for a while now.

I’m writing a book.


I’m writing a book.

Okay, I’m not ready to shout it from the rooftops just yet but I am terrified excited to share this news with you here. Brooke, author of Warrior Prayers and Notes to Aspiring Writers: Your Dream, God’s Plan (due out next week), encouraged her blog readers to come up with an elevator pitch for our books, so here it goes:

The working title is “Bountiful: Cultivating a fruitful life in dry seasons”

Where can we look when find ourselves in a season that is painful or dry? Galatians 5 is a gift from God for a parched soul.  My book walks us through the lush garden of the fruit of the spirit, picking one fruit at a time and examining its healing properties for hurting lives. We can find that place of refreshing and renewal in Christ.

I pray this is only the beginning of great things. I am writing this book because someone (maybe you!) needs to read it. God has help for others on the other side of my faltering pen.

I’d appreciate your prayers as I struggle to complete what I feel God has placed on my heart to share.

I’m writing a book!

Summer Splash is here!

Welcome! I’m so glad you took time out of your busy schedule to stop by.

image courtesy Horia Varlan

What good is a philosophy if you never put it into practice? That’s what I love about BPA–it’s so “everyday.” I wanted to share a post with you about science. It’s a subject that intimidates many families but it doesn’t have to. I hope this article on 10 Reasons to Study Science from a Biblical Principle Approach will inspire you to broach the subject with new excitement this fall. (And feel free to stop by my other blog, The Homeschool Nurse, for all sorts of medical-related goodness.)

Now for the freebie:

a free ebook! (update: free ebook time has expired. But you can still snag a copy  when you subscribe to my blog!)

So grab your free book and head back to BiblePrinciples for more great stuff already! There’s lots more fun going on over there.

Reflections on my post-a-day month

Okay this is the last day of my daily post experiment. It was challenging, to be sure. There are a few things I learned.

  1. I am not very organized. I had no real plan or help with post topics, which now I wish I had benefit of. If I ever do this again I will make sure I have something to write about so I don’t have to grasp for an idea.
  2. Posting on this blog, for me, is a reflective process. I don’t like posting every day because my posts are not day-in-the-life kinds of posts. I enjoy writing more about things I have been thinking on for a while.
  3. My default seems to be lists. When I am stuck for a post idea I make a list. Not always, but often–like this post.
  4. My life schedule does not lend itself to daily posts. Not easily, anyway. With a husband, four children, a full time job and school, there are precious few moments for writing posts, especially ones I don’t deem important. I would rather post less often and write things that are more eternal–or at least educational.
  5. This month has helped me refine what this blog is for. It freshened my perspective, focus and ideas for future projects. Stay tuned for more details!

This was less fun than challenging but I’m glad I did it. Even though I wasn’t able to post every day it still set a high bar, and I always enjoy that. Now back to our regularly (un)scheduled posts…

Stuff I am looking forward to

Graduating with my BSN next year

Having a teenager in the house (next month!)

Teaching Micah to read

Going on a medical missions trip

Growing in Christ

Learning a foreign language

Grandchildren (a long time from now!)

The return of Christ (come quickly, Lord Jesus!)

Stuff I miss

My dad (he passed away in 2005)

Homeschooling (I love being with my children!)

Newborns (not that I want another but they sure do smell amazing)

Texas (it will always be home)

Sunrise (I’m at work before the sun comes up)

Jamaican jerk chicken by the ocean (mission trip)

My grampa’s sense of humor (he died in 1989)

Paula Zuniga’s Mexican food (nothing could touch it!)

Tomorrow: Things I’m looking forward to!

Not ashamed

There isn’t much better reading on the subject of faith in the Bible than Hebrews 11. Known as the “Hall of Faith,” it is a dizzying recitation of people who chose to believe God, even when some of their natural eyes never saw what they were believing for. Do I have that kind of faith? The faith to simply trust God?

God is not ashamed to be called their God. Heb 11:16b

Wow. God was so moved by their faith that He was proud to be called their God.

I want to be that person, the one who pleases God in that way. I know as a mom I want to be proud to be my child’s mom. God is the same. But the difference between my parenting and God’s is our works don’t make Him happy, our faith does.

Faith is what makes God happy. He said so.

But without faith it is impossible to please him. Heb 11:6a

Faith, Simply childlike trust in Him is all we need. Not works of the flesh, not perfection. Then He is proud to call Himself our God and I can rest knowing He has the whole world in His hands.

Good things

(Doesn’t that phrase just make you happy?)

Good. Things. Good things.

What are good things and why should we care about them?

Good things, the best things, are things you can touch, like kisses and hugs.

They are things you can’t, like laughter—and tears.

They are things that cost money, like a safe home.

And things that are free, like a smile.

Good things are everywhere and nowhere.

We care about them because they somehow make our lives better. Good things always do.

What are your good things?

A post on why I wasn’t posting

Okay my attempt to post every day this month has [briefly] fallen apart. But I will pick right back up here.

So we are in our second week of record snowfall. I had to stay at the hospital Tuesday night to make sure I could get to work yesterday. I was glad I did but that meant I couldn’t post and I wish I would have post dated something so my silly respectable daily posting goal would be met.

It has been colder here in Tulsa today than at the North Pole. No joke. The South Pole too (but then again it’s summertime there!). It has been up to -31 degrees in Oklahoma. Crazy cold. So all the snow we have gotten two weeks in a row (3 feet or so in all) is just sitting around. and piling up. and making an icy mess everywhere. Ick.

When I got home from work last night I was exhausted and just couldn’t write anything creative. So here I am now. Back on track. :) But the bright spot on my day is the knowledge that it will get into the 70′s (yes!!) next week. Then we will live in a big muddy lake. But I’ll take that over what I have now any day!

I have not yet arrived

The key to success is Christian character. (emphasis mine)

Adams, C. G., & Youmans, E. L. (2004). The Noah plan Self-directed study in the principle approach (5). Chesapeake, VA.: Foundation for American Christian Education.

It has taken me 7 years on this BPA journey to understand that this is a process. By “this” I mean, living, learning. I do not have to be perfect or “have arrived.” I am on a journey, in a process. As I grow in Christian character I can teach more, handle more, understand more.

But for now what I can do is enough. I am enough. For whatever, whenever. As I grow in Christian character I am able to unlock greater and greater mysteries in Christ. What a privilege!

The key is character. Character is key. No pressure, right? This idea used to really freak me out. I couldn’t understand that I don’t have to be “perfect.” Imperfection is required. Christianity demands it. Why? Because then we learn to lean on Perfection personified. I don’t have to be perfect because He was. Despite what other Christians would lead you to believe (with their words or actions), God is not disappointed (or impressed) with our imperfection. He just loves us, right here, right now.

I have not arrived and I don’t think I ever want to get there. The journey is too much fun!

Let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us, looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith.      Hebrews 12:1–2b